THOUGHTS FROM JACKIE: “Sex vs. Honeycomb”

THOUGHTS FROM JACKIE: “Sex vs. Honeycomb”

The marriage institution between a man and woman was created by God. The sexual relationship is not the one little dirty thing God allows couples to do. The sexual relationship is a beautiful part of the covenant between husband and wife. It is the one thing you only share with that special person God joined you with. Temptations come when people begin deny each other the love and special affection that comes from love making. Love making is more than just sex for married people. It is a sign/reminder of a spiritual covenant. Have you ever heard of consummating a marriage? It means that the marriage covenant was completed, not because a license was signed, or ceremony conducted. It meant that covenant had occurred because the the hymen during intercourse had been broken (Genesis 24:67). Blood was shed at that moment which was, and always has been, the sign of covenant. People have had their marriages annulled (never existed) because intercourse did not occur. Even though a person may not marry as a virgin the principle still applies. Like taking communion reminds believers of their heavenly covenant with Christ, sex between married couples is a reminder of their covenant with each other. Don’t mis-understand the spiritual significance here as well. Because your commitment to your spouse was made before God, He created a spiritual connection (Matthew 19:5-6), a bonding between the two of you that made you one (Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 5:31).

Just like a lack of fellowship with God can results in temptations, a lack of sexual fellowship with your spouse can create temptations (1 Corinthians 7:1-6). Over the years I have worked with many couples. Without fail couples with the best relationships also have a very prosperous sex life. They can have issues like anyone else, but as the love of God flows to forgive, and move forward in their lives, good sex just happens. There is so much more to this than I can cover in a blog.

Let me share a story. There was a couple I met while doing a marriage seminar. The husband had been tempted resulting in the use of pornography. He like many others caught up in this behavior/trap, would not even touch his wife. The couple made a commitment to fight for their marriage. They would spiritually fight the trap of porn. They would seek God for the resolution of any issues. They committed to make love for the next 30 days. I came back to that church about 6 months later. As worship was going forward I was sitting behind them not knowing it was them. They were sitting so close they were almost on top of each other. There was back rubbing, head on shoulders, leg rubbing, and hair fondling. I said whoever that is needs to get a room, and perhaps should have skipped service today. When I got up to preach, I realized this was the almost divorced couple. I was so happy for them. I talked to them after service. The clinging and caressing continued during our conversation. These 40 somethings were enjoying each other like they had just married.

Temptation dies out when God, and practiced covenant come together. How many times have you and your spouse been fighting, had sex and then things got better. That did not happen just because you made each other feel good. It happened also because you made love which also created a divine connection in the spirit realm. A person usually does not want honey when they have just eaten a dozen cookies (Proverbs 27:6-8). A sexually satisfied individual does not want sex when that need has been spiritually and physically met. I pray you have lots of covenant cutting sex in your marriage. Start tonight or right now.

Proverbs 27:6-8
6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are lavish and deceitful.
7 He who is satiated [with sensual pleasures] loathes and treads underfoot a honeycomb, but to the hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet.
8 Like a bird that wanders from her nest, so is a man who strays from his home. NIV


1 Corinthians 7
1 Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First, Is it a good thing to have sexual relations?
2-6 Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I’m not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence—only providing my best counsel if you should choose them. TMB

Genesis 24:67
67 Then Isaac brought Rebekah into his mother Sarah’s tent. He took her as his wife and slept with her, and grew to love her deeply. In this way, Isaac found comfort in the wake of his mother’s death. The Voice

Matthew 19:5-6
5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” The Voice

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